Unpopular opinion - women do belong in the kitchen.

Bringing back femininity, not feminism.

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Let’s take a look at the health of our nation, our community, our family.

It’s gone to shit, let’s be honest.

We are eating out of convenience, not through choosing health.

Why?

I would say mostly because on the whole people are too stressed, too tired and too busy to be able to make healthy whole foods each day of the week.

Taking the woman out of the home and putting her in a high stress environment that does not align with her hormonal cycle is the most catastrophic thing we have done to our society.

I’m not talking some woo woo stuff here.

Men have a 24 hour hormone cycle, meaning each day is more or less the same. Their testosterone peaks in the morning then reduces throughout the day.

Women, on the other hand, have a 28 (ish) day cycle with fluctuating hormones that need to be honoured.

The majority of the women I know do not want to go out to work on their pre-menstrual or bleed time.

In fact the majority of women I know do not want to go to work full stop.

Our cyclical nature requires an ebb and flow. Something that can be nurtured to as a homemaker / housewife / stay at home woman.

When the woman is in the kitchen nurturing herself and the whole family they are ALL able to thrive.

The man can be more focused on his strengths because his needs are being taken care of.

And yes I absolutely believe a man’s strengths are going out to provide.

I find it insulting to human biology that for thousands of years our ancestors lived like this but now it is deemed as misogynistic to think this way.

Feminism has destroyed our nation. Not the patriarchy.

The entire system is warped and twisted. Something which I believe is very much on purpose. I call it the attack on the family home system. Driving mothers out to work, children out to school and inviting in toxic chemical-laden foods and appliances out of convenience.

Think back to the time of our great-grandmothers. What was their role? The matriarch? What did that look like? What did that feel like?

I’m going to imagine it looked something like staying at home, in the kitchen, making nourishing foods for the entire family and looking after the household.

Now I know I’m going to receive comments about how it’s near impossible to raise a family on a single income in this day and age. Yep I hear that. But I also think it comes down to our personal choices and priorities.

I’m merely saying if we were to have an honest look at ourselves as a society I’m pretty certain we could trace the increase in disease and health issues to when we lost the heart of the home - the homemaker.

For our family health and well-being is a top priority. It’s a priority over fancy cars or nice holidays. So we ‘sacrifice’ in certain areas, we don’t drink, we rarely go out, we are mindful with our spending, but we prioritise good, organic, whole foods and creating a home environment where we are all nurtured and nourished.

And honestly? I love this role in my life. I love the simplicity of caring for my family. It is the most fulfilling way to spend my days. It is an honour to serve my partner and my child in this way.

What qualities do you think of when you think of the feminine?

Nourishing. Caring. Loving. Warm.

It is in our biology to be care-givers, to be nourishers, to tend to the lives of those around us. We weave the fabric of life into being simply by being who we are. We cannot do that when we are not at home.

Who would darn the socks? Who would bake the bread? Who would lovingly make the bed in the morning? Who would tuck little ones in at night?

It is in our bones.