I feel this so much, especially now the option has been taken away, I feel like it’s now become a wanting what I can’t have. I lived with that paradoxical thought of “I couldn’t cope with another baby” juxtaposed with that deep internal yearning of creating a human. Urgh. So many of my friends are pregnant, with first and second babies, and it’s honestly bittersweet.
But yes pull and pray all the way. It’s served us well the last 7 years. With intentional pregnancies to come from it.
I have heard that if a man’s precum is not fertile, then it never will be. But, if it is, then it always will be.
I mean it can go get tested for piece of mind. I just assume we are all good as there have been times where I coulda shoulda become pregnant haha.
I normally (when not pregnant or in early postpartum) track my cycle but I guess because we are in the baby season of our life there’s been a “we don’t want another right now but if for any reason it happened we would have to just go with it”
But I can imagine when we feel complete and finished making babies... things may need to become tighter haha
Ha - It’s such a good phrase. I wish I could say I coined it but I heard it from someone else and it resonated hard!
That’s super interesting about the pre-cum! It’s a Russian roulette I can’t risk right now, once we’ve got halfway through the reno then I can take more chances but right now it would really not be the right decision for anyone in our family!
I think it opens up an interesting conversation when you do feel your family is complete because what comes next...? I don’t know about you but I won’t be going on birth control, so does that limit me to inner-autumn sex only? Does it mean we consider a vasectomy for my partner? Obviously there are condoms and other methods but I think it’s actually something really tricky to navigate.
Hopefully once we are in our new house we can have a period of time where it doesn’t matter if I have a few babies in short succession 😂
I’m sure you have shared somewhere before, but is it yours and Tully’s intention to have a large family?
Yeah totally! I don’t want to limit sex.... mmmm tul has had a strong sublimation
Method in the past that seemed to work well. So sex throughout the month- but mostly sublimating.
I wouldn’t be surprised if our next pregnancy is our last. I always thought 3/4 kids but honestly I think after 2 or 3 it doesn’t matter haha the kids start raising each other and you’re already so deep in it that more doesn’t feel like more. That’s what my mum said after 7 anyway haha.
I feel this so much, especially now the option has been taken away, I feel like it’s now become a wanting what I can’t have. I lived with that paradoxical thought of “I couldn’t cope with another baby” juxtaposed with that deep internal yearning of creating a human. Urgh. So many of my friends are pregnant, with first and second babies, and it’s honestly bittersweet.
When the time is right darling, you’ll know 🤍
Totally hear you my love. Gah it can be so hard sometimes. Xx
Hahaha pull and pray. That’s so good.
But yes pull and pray all the way. It’s served us well the last 7 years. With intentional pregnancies to come from it.
I have heard that if a man’s precum is not fertile, then it never will be. But, if it is, then it always will be.
I mean it can go get tested for piece of mind. I just assume we are all good as there have been times where I coulda shoulda become pregnant haha.
I normally (when not pregnant or in early postpartum) track my cycle but I guess because we are in the baby season of our life there’s been a “we don’t want another right now but if for any reason it happened we would have to just go with it”
But I can imagine when we feel complete and finished making babies... things may need to become tighter haha
Ha - It’s such a good phrase. I wish I could say I coined it but I heard it from someone else and it resonated hard!
That’s super interesting about the pre-cum! It’s a Russian roulette I can’t risk right now, once we’ve got halfway through the reno then I can take more chances but right now it would really not be the right decision for anyone in our family!
I think it opens up an interesting conversation when you do feel your family is complete because what comes next...? I don’t know about you but I won’t be going on birth control, so does that limit me to inner-autumn sex only? Does it mean we consider a vasectomy for my partner? Obviously there are condoms and other methods but I think it’s actually something really tricky to navigate.
Hopefully once we are in our new house we can have a period of time where it doesn’t matter if I have a few babies in short succession 😂
I’m sure you have shared somewhere before, but is it yours and Tully’s intention to have a large family?
Yeah totally! I don’t want to limit sex.... mmmm tul has had a strong sublimation
Method in the past that seemed to work well. So sex throughout the month- but mostly sublimating.
I wouldn’t be surprised if our next pregnancy is our last. I always thought 3/4 kids but honestly I think after 2 or 3 it doesn’t matter haha the kids start raising each other and you’re already so deep in it that more doesn’t feel like more. That’s what my mum said after 7 anyway haha.